This mom says her 10 year old daughter was doing 2-3 hours of homework a night, was suffering panic attacks and anxiety and wasn't even getting a chance to be a kid.
At some point she decided enough was enough.
She sat down and wrote a letter that's gone viral.
In it, she refuses to make her daughter do homework any more.
In a Facebook post, she shares a photo of the email that was sent to Maya's teachers.
“Hello Maya’s teachers,
Maya will be drastically reducing the amount of homework she does this year. She’s been very stressed and is starting to have physical symptoms such as chest pain and waking up at 4 a.m. worrying about her school workload.
She’s not behind academically and very much enjoys school. We consulted with a tutor and a therapist suggested we lighten her workload. Doing 2-3 hours of homework after getting home at 4:30 is leaving little time for her to just be a child and enjoy family time and we’d like to avoid her sinking into a depression over this.
Thank you for understanding.
She goes on to explain herself more in a caption for the photo.
"My kid is done with homework. I just sent an email to her school letting her know she's all done. I said "drastically reduce" but I was trying to be polite because she's finished.
My 10-year-old loves learning. She independently reads 10-12 chapter books a year and regularly researches topics that interest her (right now she's writing a story about wolves). She takes coding classes, loves painting, and likes something called Roblox that I don't fully understand.
But over the past four years I've noticed her getting more and more stressed when it comes to school. And by stressed I mean chest pains, waking up early, and dreading school in general.
She's in school from 8:15am-4pm daily so someone please explain to me why she should have 2-3 hours of homework to do every night? How does homework until 6:30, then dinner, then an hour to relax (or finish the homework) before bed make any sense at all?
Is family time not important? Is time spent just being a child relaxing at home not important? Or should she become some kind of junior workaholic at 10 years old?
Did you know that in Finland homework is banned?
And that they have the highest rate of college bound students in all of Europe?
Children do not need hours of homework time to succeed yet we act like sitting at a kitchen table after a full day at school somehow makes sense.
It does not. IT DOES NOT. IT. DOES. NOT.
Children need downtime after school the same way adults need downtime after work.
They need to play with their siblings. They need to bond with their parents in a relaxed atmosphere, not one where everyone is stressed about fractions because - SURPRISE- I'm not a teacher.
Children need time to just enjoy their childhoods or is that just for the weekends (although we do homework on Sundays also).
My kid is all done with homework.
If the school wants to punish her for it, then I guess I'll have to figure out how to homeschool.
I'm very nervous about it because although I work from home, I do work. I also have a 3-year-old who only goes to preschool two mornings a week. And a 7-year-old in second grade. I'll have to hire a tutor to help me and will need to find a group of parents doing the same thing, but I have no choice at this point. We all want our children to grow up and succeed in the world.
While I believe in education, I don't believe for one second that academics should consume a child's life. I don't care if she goes to Harvard one day. I just want her to be intelligent, well-rounded, kind, inspired, charitable, spiritual and have balance in her life. I want her to be mentally and emotionally healthy. I want her to know that work is not life, it's part of life.
Work will not fulfill you. It will not keep you warm- family, friends, community, giving back, and being a good person do that. I suppose I'll hear from her school tomorrow. We have some decisions to make. But going forward, this is a homework-free household and I don't care who knows it. My kid needs to be a kid.
In an updated post, Laditan says she is scheduled for a meeting at the school on Monday to discuss her concerns.